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28 February, 2014

I'm not generally one to make rash decisions.

I think about things. A lot. Obsess about them really.

But this past weekend I decided to revamp an online dating profile and actually leave it up for more than 5 minutes.

It's now been up for 5 days.

It's been an odd experience to say the least.

Thus far the responses have been overwhelming in quantity but not necessarily quality.

To be honest, I wish I would have seen this handy little graph before I started: Should I Go Out with This Guy?

But before anyone jumps all over me for being "too picky", allow me to explain my criteria....

  • If you're an adult, "how r u?" is not appropriate. I don't even TEXT that way. Why would anyone think it is o.k. to send a message using such "lingo". 

  • Age isn't everything, but you can't be as old or older than my parents.

  • "Hey babe" is not an icebreaker. You come off as creepy.

  • Nor is simply using the word "wow".


I'm not totally jaded though. Unless Tom Hiddleston walks through my front door, I understand that sometimes you have to make compromises on what or who you think you are looking for.

There have, thankfully, been a couple that stood out from the bunch. There is even one, who on first blush, I might consider to be my polar opposite. But we actually had what I would consider to have been quite a lovely chat with that lasted HOURS. It was actually kind of fun "getting to know someone" as well as you can via IM and kind of restored my faith in the idea that maybe this isn't as scary as I think it is.

We shall see what happens. I'm not expecting fireworks and a proposal. Just someone to hang out with and catch a movie with sometime.

As for the dude that was my polar opposite, whom my friends have dubbed Buck (he's a hunter), we exchanged photos and then it all kind of fell apart and I haven't heard from him since. So that sucks.

4 comments:

  1. Totally can relate. I'm fussy in much the same way in terms of the guys I respond to on dating sites. I hate the Internet shorthand, pet names like "babe", "sweetie", and "honey" are condescending when coming from a stranger, and OH FOR GODSAKES do NOT send me message just to tell me I'm beautiful. You might mean well with the complement, but what I hear is nothing short of objectification.

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  2. I am so glad I'm not alone in my pet peeves. I get that not everyone is going to have something "witty" to say, but for the love of all that is holy, make an effort.

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  3. Totally agree!!! It's not picky ... it's called having standards.

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  4. It is very good to know I'm not alone and that my standards aren't way out there.

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